"Productive Vulnerability" as the narrative protocol to both unmask our own self-deception and reveal the power of Christ.

This is the redemptive alternative to either withdrawal or control
(as a way to cope with the dysphoria from encountering our mutual brokenness).
Withdrawal and control can be effective in reducing short-term pain,
but fail to confront the underlying brokenness
and are thus toxic to the authenticity required for healthy long-term relationships.

See also: Faith in two syllables 

Childing -> Adulting -> Christing (like Jesus)