# Ernie

  1. Not wanting to incarnate into other peoples dysfunction
  2. Do I want to heal people from their brokenness so that I can identify with them? VS
  3. Am I willing to identify with people in their brokenness so that God can heal us
# Robby

  1. Jesus, how do I grow closer to You in such a way that Your Spirit most deeply shapes what I want and what I pursue?
  2. A common tension -- between pursuing the mission and caring for the members -- reflects the feelings among my own family that I “don’t care about them.”
  3. The most important question for me is “What does Jesus want?”
    1. My focus tends to then be on how *I* can pursue what *I* imagine He wants.
    2. However this overlooks the reality that the first thing He wants from me is intimacy with me.
# Reframing Offense

"Being versus Feeling Annoyed"

  1. Objective analysis (of their wrong)
  2. Self-awareness (of my "blaming" thought cycles)
  3. Emotional introspection (of the anger/frustration behind those cycles)
  4. Humble recognition (that my issues intersect with theirs)
  5. Conscious identification (that we both need the same grace)

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